Updated: May 5, 2019
In mountain biking, when you look at the rock right in front of you, you will more than likely crash right into that rock. The trick to avoiding challenging obstacles is to set your gaze 20 to 30 feet down the trail, and your bike will naturally glide past the rock with ease.
It's similar in real life. When you focus on a challenge or a fear, then that is all you'll see. Maybe it's a fear of never meeting your soul mate, of starting a new business, or moving to a new town. Those are some big, scary rocks on the trail. If you continue to focus on what is difficult, then that task will only feel difficult.
We are constantly creating our own reality. Our beliefs dictate our truth. Not because our beliefs are true, but because we believe them to be true.
We are constantly creating our own reality. Our beliefs dictate our truth. Not because our beliefs are true but because we believe them to be true. (Is your mind blown, yet?)
I see it on my mountain bike often. I'll look at a rocky or steep section and think, no way can I clear that. Then, without fail, I don't clear that section. Every. Single. Time.
So instead of focusing on the negative, or the big hairy obstacle between you and your goal, try focusing on your successes. What is going well in your life? What are you grateful for? What brings you the most joy?
Celebrate small victories. On the mountain bike, that could sound like: Yes, I cleared that corner! Ha, I got your number, rock! Amazing, I cleared that tree root today! In your personal life, it could look like acknowledging your partner for emptying the dishwasher, writing a thank you card to someone who did a small favor for you, or even congratulating yourself for spending an hour on self-care when you really needed it.
By acknowledging and celebrating small victories, you are more likely to experience more of them. The feeling of joy and flow will continue to attract more joy and flow into your life. Set your gaze to the space just beyond the obstacles and you will sail right by them with ease.